The Beauty of Modesty Part 2

This post is to answer the question posed at the end of my first post on Modesty

Why would a guy care?

With a culture supporting, expecting, and encouraging temporary relationships and the fulfillment of sexual pleasure, most men don't care about women who clothe themselves modestly and embrace their femininity.  In fact, more than just not caring, most guys dislike (at a minimum dismiss) women who don't conform to the seductive standards set by the modern/contemporary world, labeling them as "holier-than-thou" and "prudes". 

Sensuality, lewdness, and seduction is rampant in our society. With every magazine cover and clothing advertisement  broadcasting sensuality, our world has been saturated with sexual perversion everywhere we look. If you don't believe me, go take a walk through the mall or the checkout lane of the grocery store!  

Because "easy girls" are there for the taking by society's sex-driven men, a guy who wants to fulfill sexual desires doesn't appreciate women who clothe themselves modestly and don't provide opportunities for them to act upon the desires. 

However, for a young man who loves Jesus Christ, is striving to serve the Lord, and wants to stay pure according to God's holy Word, a woman who dresses modestly and adorns herself with femininity is immensely encouraging. 

When a woman clothes herself modestly and is striving to please the Lord, she is not only obeying God, but she is also aware and showing respect to men who want to keep their mind, body and soul pure. By covering themselves, these ladies are protecting their own purity as well as protecting other young men's eyes and heart. When a women walks by with a pair of skin-tight jeans, plunging neckline and swinging her derriere to beat the band, that is not helpful for a man. But for a lady who is covering her body in modest clothing, and carrying herself with graceful femininity, she is protecting that very same man from stumbling and falling into lust.   

As for me, I would like to thank each and every young lady who is defying the cultural "normal" and dressing modestly. Because I am saving my heart and body for my future wife, every time I see a young woman doing the same, that encourages me. I see that they are seeking to protect their brothers in the Lord from stumbling, and may the young men committed to purity do no less for our sisters in Christ.  Don't stop ladies! There ARE men who appreciate you, though they may be few, and far between.  Even if their were no men who appreciated the stand that you are taking, God does and that is most important! Press on!

Regarding the last post, I wanted to address two things.

I have a question......do you consider someone who is dressed in modest pants, not embracing their femininity?

Thank you for you question! While under certain circumstances, pants are the most appropriate choice of clothing, I feel that it really just depends. Many girls use excuses like: "I can't do as many things in skirt" as a cop out, but if that girl was brave enough to try, she may find that skirts and their "thing/activity" are quite compatible!  Sometimes pants are best, but most times I feel that it is very hard for a woman to embrace her femininity while wearing pants. (Even my sister tells me that when wearing pants she feels different in her spirit and her respect for men.)  Simply put, if I showed up on your doorstep in a skirt, would you feel that I was embracing my masculinity?

Don't knock the jumpers! I happen to LOVE and think I look beautiful and simple in a loose fitting jumper.

My apologies if you felt as though I was bashing jumpers. Here is what I said:

"Momma and the girls wore long, form-concealing jumpers and head coverings in an effort to obtain modesty. While they certainly were covered and modest, their motives were very much based upon the law, and about the outside appearance; not focused on the heart."

I was addressing modesty being an issue of the heart and how they were modest on the outside, yet not focused on the heart. The actual item of clothing was not the point of the statement...Hope that this clears up confusion and/or hurt feelings!

In Christ Alone,